Be intentional about your life. Don’t just allow life to “happen to you”, instead choose to be purposeful in everything that you do. Think about things that are important to you and then act accordingly, don’t just go with the flow. You may not always feel like it, or you may have to make sacrifices, but as we say in Jamaica, “If yuh want good, yuh nose haffi run.” In other words, there is no reward without effort.
What is your vision for your life – for your career, for your family, for your finances, etc? When you think about your future, what do you envision? Once you have that picture cemented in your mind, you need to move to the next level. You need to be intentional about the choices you make so that the vision can become a reality. What you accomplish in your life is directly related to the choices you made along the way.
In previous posts, I discussed how to create a vision board, where you can place pictures of your dreams on a board so that you can see them every day. I also discussed goal-setting as the next step. It is not enough to put pictures on a board, you next have to set goals and create plans in order to achieve them. Now for the next step. After doing everything mentioned above, you need to be deliberate in your actions.
For example, if you want to be financially secure, you can’t spend more than you earn. You need to save and invest carefully. Minimize your debts as much as possible and practice delayed gratification. Similarly, if you want to be successful on the job, you have to show up on time and perform. You need to seek out mentors and others from whom you can learn. You need to invest in continuous learning. Be intentional!
If you want to have good relationships with others, you need to communicate effectively and you need to treat them respectfully. You need to put effort into maintaining those relationships. When conflicts arise, you need to forgive swiftly. If you want to raise “good” kids, you need to model the behaviours that you want them to display. You need to love them unconditionally. Also, you need to praise them and discipline them when necessary. You need to spend time listening to them and guiding them. Teach them to treat others the way they would want to be treated and to serve others, to give to those less fortunate and to defend those who can’t defend themselves. Again you need to be intentional.
Do you notice the trend? Results don’t come without effort and effort is a direct result of a choice you make to put in the work. There are no free lunches. So if you are sitting around waiting for the cavalry to come and rescue you, I have news for you, it’s not coming. None of these things are going to just magically occur. No, not at all. You have to make a conscious decision to show up every day and do what it takes to ensure that you obtain the results you desire. You have to be intentional!
If you need help figuring out what you need to do, check out my previous post on goal-setting to get started. Once you have your goal plan in place, it will be easier to identify the steps you need to take in order to achieve your desired outcomes. The key is to be conscious and deliberate in your actions. Good luck.