A word of warning! Beware of the people whom you allow to speak into your life. You should reserve that privilege for a select few. Sadly, not everyone around you has your best interest at heart or wishes you well. So, be selective about whom you go to when you are in need of advice.
Don’t discuss your dreams or problems with everyone. This is particularly true in your intimate relationships. If you are having issues in your relationship, be careful not to discuss them with many people. As much as possible, keep your issues between you and your partner. Here are a few reasons why this is important:
- When you discuss your relationship issues with many other people, you will get many differing views on their impressions of the situation and what you should do about it. This will lead to confusion and may make things worse rather than better.
- People who are close to you and your partner will take sides and will hold grudges long after you and your partner have made up. It is not that they are bad people, rather it is that they love you and when you hurt, they hurt too. Sometimes, it is hard for them to forgive, even after you have.
- People who were hurt in their own intimate relationships may project their issues unto you. They may draw parallels and make associations where there really aren’t any, because of what they experienced. Though well-intentioned, because of their “baggage”, they may not give you very good advice.
- There may be some people who are jealous of you and don’t want to see good things happening in your life. They may secretly try to sabotage you once they discover that there is a “chink in the armour”. Misery loves company and they want you to be as miserable as they are.
This warning is not limited to just your intimate relationships though. I know of many people who had their dreams and aspirations shot down by others who could not see their vision. If you want my advice, when you have big dreams, keep them close to your chest. Don’t talk too much about them, just put in the work and the end result will be plain for all to see. Talk less and act more. Silence any critics with results!