Happy Mother’s Day! Mothers everywhere, today is the day to celebrate you. Today is your day and I hope you will enjoy it to the fullest. Motherhood is not an easy task; it is not for the faint of heart. It is often a thankless, exhausting, nerve-wracking job. Mothers die a thousand deaths before their children become adults. Which mom hasn’t sat helplessly in a hospital waiting room with their sick child, hoping and praying that the diagnosis is not something serious and that the child will make a full recovery?
There are no sick days, there are no vacation days and there is no time-off but it is also the most important job you’ll ever have. You are paid in hugs and kisses and the unconditional love you receive from your child is like none other on Earth. Mothers, please remember that you are raising up the next generation of adults and that your children will spend more time as adults than they will as children, so please train your children to be respectful, kind and empathetic people. Spoiled children become spoiled adults and spoiled adults make the lives of those around them unbearable.
If you wanted to but never had a child of your own, I know Mother’s Day can be very difficult. I see you. Today, I want to celebrate you too – for your desire to be a mother. Just because you didn’t birth a child doesn’t mean that you can’t still play the vital role of mothering. If you don’t have any children with whom you associate closely, I strongly encourage you to identify a child whom you can pour into and love. The relationship will be beneficial to both you and the child. You never know the impact you might have. You could very well end up being the most influential person in that child’s life.
If you are a stepmother, foster mother, godmother, aunt, grandmother or anyone else who is helping to raise someone else’s children, I want to assure you that you play a valuable role and those children are blessed to have you. You deserve special recognition. As the saying goes, “It takes a village to raise a child”.
To you whose mothers are no longer here with you in physical form, I know today must be especially hard. I sympathize and my prayer for you is that you will look back on the fond memories of your mother and know that she would want you to be happy. She would want to see you living your best life. It’s ok to grieve and to miss her. She may be gone but she will never be forgotten. So, if today you don’t feel like celebrating, give yourself some grace. It’s ok to not be ok.
Although it’s Mother’s Day, I would be remiss if I didn’t take some time to acknowledge the single parents out there who are playing the dual role of mother and father in the lives of their children. I salute you – you are doing a herculean task, without any help from a partner. Know that what you are doing for your children is the most important thing that you can do. So, don’t give up when it gets hard. It will be worth it. My prayer for you is that you will be blessed with a support system that can help you when you have no more strength.
If you had an absentee mother or had a bad mother or maybe your relationship with your mother is tumultuous, today you may have mixed feelings or you may be angry at her. If you didn’t have the kind of relationship with your mother that you would have liked to have, I encourage you to choose to forgive her. You aren’t doing it for her, you are doing it for you. Only through forgiveness will you be able to heal from the wounds she may have caused you. If you don’t heal, you risk perpetuating the same issues with your own children. There is a common phrase that says “Hurt people, hurt people”. I would add, forgiveness helps hurt people become healed people.
Finally, to my own mother, I am regularly amazed by you. You have been the ‘wind beneath my wings’, constantly loving, supporting and guiding me – even to this day. I wouldn’t be the woman I am today if it weren’t for you. Thank you for all you have done and continue to do for me. I appreciate you and love you so much. Happy Mother’s Day!