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The Slap

It was the slap seen all across the world. I don’t usually pay attention to pop culture and I usually wouldn’t even comment on it, but we can all learn some valuable lessons from the unfortunate ‘situation’ that unfolded at the recently televised 94th Annual Academy Awards. I am not going to rehash what happened here. If you are not familiar with the incident, you can find all the details online. In my opinion, both men were wrong. It was ugly and distasteful and should never have occurred.

Lesson 1:  Don’t discuss other people and their appearance. Too many people have a tendency to discuss others and their appearance or their choices publicly. Stop it! Leave people and their business alone! You see people moving through the world but you don’t know their story. You don’t know their struggles. So, keep your mouth out of their affairs and leave them alone. 

Lesson 2: Everything is not necessarily as it appears. Even if your words or actions appear not to affect someone, it doesn’t mean they didn’t cause harm. People may smile or even laugh at something you say or do but words cut like a knife. Growing up, our parents taught us that if we didn’t have anything good to say, don’t say anything at all. It is still great advice. You have no business publicly humiliating someone else, even if you mean it in jest.

Lesson 3: You may have good intentions and still cause harm to others. Assaulting someone who publicly embarrassed someone you care about is not noble. Instead, it is even more humiliating to your loved one. Now, not only does your loved one have to deal with the shame of what was said about them but they also have to deal with the additional shame of your reaction.

Lesson 4: Violence is never the solution. It is understandable for you to want to protect those you love, but resorting to violence is not the answer. You cannot slap people because they say insensitive things. Again, growing up our parents taught us that “two wrongs don’t make a right.” Physical violence in response to distasteful words can escalate quickly and result in worse violence. That is never a good idea. This is not the example we want to set for our children.

I tell my kids all the time, that you may be in the right in a situation but end up being in the wrong because of your reaction.  Emotional intelligence is very important. You have to be able to assess a situation and control your emotions so that you can respond and not simply react  to it. We are all fragile. We all have things that we are dealing with. Be kind.

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April 4, 2022 at 9:01 am

All around sad situation. He was obviously at his breaking point. It could happen to anyone. Hopefully we can all learn from this and move on.



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